Tom, that "massive refraction" comes to all of about 1/2 degree (one sun diameter).
You are incorrect. Refraction is used to explain anything that is not otherwise explained, and patches up any and all holes in the Round Earth model. Moon and sun in the sky at the same time during a Lunar Eclipse? Refraction!
Take a look at this Selenelion, for example. The moon is in front of the camera, the sun is rising behind the camera, and the earth is below. Firstly, during a lunar eclipse the moon should be well below the horizon line when the sun is rising up from the horizon. This is an impossibility in the Round Earth model.
Secondly, in the video the shadow of the earth is obscuring the moon from the top down rather than the bottom up, contrary to what would be expected when the earth is passing between the moon and sun. The sun's light should be peeking over the earth's horizon and hitting the moon from the top down.
That moon is apparently below the horizon "via refraction". As is the sun. The shadow is on the wrong side.

The dark part should be on the bottom, going up.