It's not a problem at all, it's just reality.
I'm talking about the legal definition of murder. You said that "she should be in jail", so you are too.
That's a definition, defined by the State. Because that's how society works.
You don't get to decide what is legal, you vote for people who do that and if they're not making laws you like you can vote for different people.
So you might think that abortion should be considered murder if you like, but saying it "is" is simply incorrect by the current definition.
Your idea of who gets to define murder is simply wrong.
Let's say, for example, that suddenly I am the most powerful person on the planet (woe to many, I know). In this magical universe where I am in charge, I am now effectively the government, able to impose my will on anyone anywhere at any time. Therefore, I define the legal system. In this universe, is my opinion of what constitutes murder now the "objectively correct" definition of murder to you? If the answer is yes, then why bother pretending to have any opinions at all? You don't happen to the universe, the universe happens to you. Your life and its opinions are based entirely of whatever the most powerful force in your vicinity happens to be. Your concept of what is and isn't murder entirely depends on mine in that universe.
Instead, if you answer "no", (which would be mine, should the positions reverse), then obviously the government's opinion of what is or isn't murder is irrelevant. I do not think just because some large group can inflict violence on me that suddenly their definition of murder outweighs my own.
Perhaps this has been stated or addressed. Not going to read 14 pages of dialogue to catch up.
This issue with your assertion is that, in the US, a majority of the population feels abortion should be legal. Hence, a majority feel it is not murder. That is not an overwhelming majority, but significantly more than 51/49. So, is it murder or isn't it? Just because Rushy thinks so doesn't make it so. It's a subjective opinion. This leads to the fact that it will be the government that ultimately decides whether it is or not.