No, the current situation is that the government is already unfairly distributing wealth from non-married couples to married couples. The metrics used to qualify as a married couple are irrelevant; it's unfair to expect taxpayers to support the institution of marriage if they choose not to partake in it, regardless of whether those they are subsidising are heterosexual or homosexual. This issue is separate from and unrelated to the issue of same-sex marriage, but while this unfair practice exists, it should be extended equally to gay and straight couples alike.
What are you talking about? It is fair and we do have a say. It's called a democracy. Our ELECTED OFFICIALS spend public money on things deemed beneficial. The state spends our money on everything from Agriculture to Space Travel.
It was determined that the long term health of our economy depends on stable nuclear families creating future workers and taxpayers. Therefore, heterosexual unions were rewarded and homosexual unions were not.
A state does not exist to enforce prosperity. A state exists to protect the rights of individuals and organisations, thus enabling them to prosper in a free market. There is no justification for a state deciding which lifestyle is best for society on behalf of the populace.
The state regulates lifestyle choices of all stripes. The state regulates drugs, prostitution, and pedophilia. The state places limits on words, dress codes, and many other things. The justification is that we elected our government to do so. This regulation is what the public consensus wants.
The state decided that heterosexual marriage was best for society, not homosexual marriage, and that trend has been upheld for many years, through many election cycles, cementing in the undeniable fact that it is what the public wants as well.
Indeed, the state should not support it. It is none of the state's business how consenting adults choose to live their lives.
The state does have business telling us what we can and can't do and how we are to live our lives. We elected them into power to do that! I want to live safely in my neighborhood, I want to go to the store without worrying about seeing indecency, and I want my tax money to go towards things that are beneficial. The state provides guidance in the form of laws and tax benefits to ensure that we live in a safe and prosperous society.