That would be points 1 and 3. Your inability to understand the differences between two frames of reference is perfectly understandable if you operate under classical mechanics. It is not at all understandable if you have a rudimentary understanding of SR. Therefore, it follows that you do not have a fundamental understanding of SR and are thus resorting to Newtonian mechanics.
Without going through all the points you say, I am quite prepared to say that you are correct and the a number of "confused's" points are not valid.
But, from any practical standpoint for essentially all calculations and observations on earth and even (with a few proviso's) within the Solar system,
So what!.
For the ordinary person there
are no calculations for which
Newtonian Laws of Motion and Gravitation are not perfectly adequate.
On earth for speeds of up to
420,000 m/s (1.53x109 km/hr) the change in mass, time, etc is
under 1 part in 1,000,000.
The nearest connection any ordinary person has to anything that is slightly affected by time dilation (due to velocity and gravitation) is the
slight correction is the on-board atomic clocks in GPS satellites.
Of course particle physicists do meet very significant relativistic effects.
On gravitation for any earthbound calculations that any ordinary person the Newtonian calculations are perfectly adequate.
And, as I have asked many times before:
What
force did Henry Cavendish (and numerous others in the couple of centuries since) measure.
Though there are, so far unexplained small variations, they certainly measured a force that
leads to an accepted value of G = 6.673 x 10-11 m3 kg-1 s-2
Most of these have used apparatus similar in principle to the torsion balance apparatus designed and constructed by geologist John Michell, and performed by Henry Cavendish (John Michell died before he could do the experiment himself). But some later quite different experiments are using quantum properties of cold Rubidium atoms and a 500 kg test mass. So far the results from this method differ a little from the accepted value, but later refinements are getting better agreement.
As far as I can find there was never any thought given to GR in all the calculations here.
So yes, if you want "perfect accuracy" go do your tensor analysis and use GR for all your simple calculations.
But, I simply cannot fathom FE supporters who
can be so pedantic over things like this,
yet happily accept distortions in country dimensions of
thousands of kilometres!
and do bother about sunrise and sunset directions being in
error around 45° at the equator and much more further south!
Come on show a bit of consistency!