It's honestly surprising the lack of imagination some men can have about going through a pregnancy. I was only 6 weeks in and I couldn't do or eat anything for about half the day every day because I was so floored by nausea. I'm even open to trying to have a kid in the near-ish future and everything about it is still terrifying. Talking to my friends/family who have had kids makes it even worse tbh because they don't have good stories to tell. Someone in my family recently had a hysterectomy because her bladder was prolapsed because her uterine walls were weaker since having kids, something that's fairly common but not talked about.
This country can't even mandate paid parental leave. Imagine going through an 18 hour labor, still needing an emergency c-section, and then having to go back to work asap because you can't afford not to but you also have to pay a ridiculous amount of money for child care. Oh but you're also going through horrible postpartum depression.
Overall, the average child care cost for one child in 2020 was $612/week for a nanny (up from $565/week in 2019), $340/week for a child care or day care center (up from $182/week) and $300/week for a family care center (up from $177/week).
https://www.care.com/c/how-much-does-child-care-cost/