What are you talking about? It is fair and we do have a say. It's called a democracy. Our ELECTED OFFICIALS spend public money on things deemed beneficial. The state spends our money on everything from Agriculture to Space Travel.
Democracy is rule by majority. Are you suggesting it is fair that the majority gets to forcibly take money away from the minority and choose how to spend it for them?
It was determined that the long term health of our economy depends on stable nuclear families creating future workers and taxpayers. Therefore, heterosexual unions were rewarded and homosexual unions were not.
It was also determined that you can tell if a woman is a witch by drowning her.
The state regulates lifestyle choices of all stripes. The state regulates drugs, prostitution, and pedophilia. The state places limits on words, dress codes, and many other things. The justification is that we elected our government to do so. This regulation is what the public consensus wants.
The fact that the powers that be have done a bad job in the past is no reason for them to continue doing a bad job in the future. Your appeal to public consensus is circular logic; if we all have to accept that public consensus is justification for a decision being the right one, then none of us can question established consensus, and public consensus can never change.
If the best you can do to counter my points is "the majority of people disagree with you", I'll take that in stride.
The state decided that heterosexual marriage was best for society, not homosexual marriage, and that trend has been upheld for many years, through many election cycles, cementing in the undeniable fact that it is what the public wants as well.
Even if you assume that our democratic process is flawless (it's not, even in Australia where things are a lot better than in the US), and that this implies most people are satisfied with all government decisions (in a representative democracy, it doesn't), the only fact this cements is that it is what more than 50% of the public wants. Why should 51% of the population dictate how the other 49% are allowed to live?
The state does have business telling us what we can and can't do and how we are to live our lives. We elected them into power to do that! I want to live safely in my neighborhood, I want to go to the store without worrying about seeing indecency, and I want my tax money to go towards things that are beneficial. The state provides guidance in the form of laws and tax benefits to ensure that we live in a safe and prosperous society.
No, nobody elects representatives to tell them how to live their lives. Some people do, however, feel the need to elect representatives to tell
other people how to live their lives. When the majority do this, the minority have to play along, even if they never wanted the people in charge to be there.
The state only has business interfering when what we do stands to harm others. You can live safely in your neighbourhood because it is the state's prerogative to protect us from criminals. On the other hand, it is not the state's prerogative to prevent you from seeing "indecency". Are you suggesting that people would suddenly stop caring about social acceptability and walk around naked if the government made it legal? If so, is it really that disturbing to you if they do? You may wish to consider finding a hobby, in that case.
Everyone wants their tax money to go towards things that are beneficial. Very few people ever agree with what the government thinks is beneficial. Therefore, the only way to accomplish that goal is to lower taxes and let people spend their money the way they want to.